Is it a boy or girl? This is the first question asked when a baby is born. You love your child and watch them grow into an adult all the time projecting your love and wanting the best for them. But as they grow things change. Your child is desperately unhappy and fighting its demons. They no longer talk or hug you and rarely leave their bedroom. Then out of the blue they tell you.. mum I was born in the wrong body and I am going to be a girl’. There were no signs of this. No instruction manual. No sign that life was about to change as you know it. Your child would never be a father, never be called by the name you had lovingly chosen. The worry for the future is endless- will they cope in society? will they be harmed? will they face prejudice and unkindness? This is the story of a mother being a mother and learning to be a mother to a daughter.